The most memorable gift I ever received wasn’t something I could hold in my hands

All, Life, Parenting, Relationships
The most memorable gift I ever received wasn't something I could hold in my hands, it was the gift of togetherness. The time someone puts into the gift and the love that is sent with the message. Memories are remembered when gifting and it doesn't have to be at certain times of the year either. As parents, we are always trying to make memories with our young, whether on purpose or by coincidence.  These memories can be in the form of places we take our offspring, books we read to them or routines we've instilled in them, daily. The most remembered memories are usually the spontaneous ones. Remember when you found your family belly laughing over something? Or the time everyone got along on a trip to the beach and…
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7 Steps to Navigate the Holidays with a Baby

7 Steps to Navigate the Holidays with a Baby

All, Infants, Kids, Life, Parenting, Relationships
Seven steps to navigate the holidays with a baby can be your life preserver during such a stressful time. Share these tips with your partner and get a head start on your planning. Birth is one of those times that an instruction manual would come in handy. Each human spirit is so individual that the need for a unique set of guidelines at any birth could prove advantageous, for the rest of their life. No two beings are the same, and parenting them as such could improve the outcome for both mom & baby. Since our mothering instincts guide us and a lot of trial and error, I thought you might appreciate a few tips on a subject rarely intuitive or discussed. Special Occasion Tips How to navigate holidays, parties,…
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The Rules of Grief

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The rules of grief don't get enough consideration before we are thrown into this bewilderment. Who is aware of the five stages (or is it 7) and the importance of refraining from making any significant decisions in the first year, if you've never done this before? Many experienced people will try to tell you these guidelines during the chaos. Still, you can barely see through your torment nevermind absorb the words of wisdom. Whether you experience grief suddenly or you expect it, there is always paralyzing pain. Even if you somehow had the advanced notice of the proper rules of grief, it can be disorienting. How you work through it is another story altogether. Most of my 40's were about finding the new, orphaned me. Who am I without a mother? How…
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New Parenthood Isolation

All, Life, Parenting, Relationships
  Obviously, you aren’t sitting around twiddling your thumbs with a baby under one, but how much of your time is spent doing something fun with your munchkin? Truth be told, you spend more time on tasks in those first months then any other time in their life.  Let’s face it, kids are a lot of work: feeding, changing, rocking, consoling, bathing, playing, putting to sleep; repeat!! During these tasks you are naturally doing some of the less mundane: smiling, talking, singing, tickling, cuddling, playing etc. but every mom gets bored (and lonely) sometimes!  Most mothers do find it somewhat exciting to engage the kiddos in baby games but sometimes we need a different type of diversion.  Here is a list of possibilities to explore when you are going stir…
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New Parenthood Isolation

All, Life, Parenting, Relationships
  Obviously, you aren’t sitting around twiddling your thumbs with a baby under one, but how much of your time is spent doing something fun with your munchkin? Truth be told, you spend more time on tasks in those first months then any other time in their life.  Let’s face it, kids are a lot of work: feeding, changing, rocking, consoling, bathing, playing, putting to sleep; repeat!! During these tasks you are naturally doing some of the less mundane: smiling, talking, singing, tickling, cuddling, playing etc. but every mom gets bored (and lonely) sometimes!  Most mothers do find it somewhat exciting to engage the kiddos in baby games but sometimes we need a different type of diversion.  Here is a list of possibilities to explore when you are going stir…
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4 Ways to Include Your Partner When Breastfeeding

4 Ways to Include Your Partner When Breastfeeding

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Definition of human bonding: “the process in the development of a close, interpersonal relationship between two or more people.  Any two people spending time together can form a bond.” There was a time when partners were involved in only a small part of child rearing.  Mothers raised the children, kept the home & prepared the meals while partners foraged for the food – e.g. went to work – sometimes leaving for weeks or months at a time. Today more families have dual incomes, making it necessary to “share” the child rearing responsibilities.  Families spend more time bonding on days off.  Newborn feeding is still primarily the mother’s role.  Hence the reason mammary glands are formed and filled with milk. Many mothers choose not to breastfeed just to keep the partner…
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What you need to know if you’re trying to get pregnant

What you need to know if you’re trying to get pregnant

Health, Infants, Life, Parenting, Pregnancy, Relationships
What you need to know if you're trying to get pregnant and may have fertility questions. *By definition “fertility is the natural capability to produce offspring.” FERTILITY: Such a beautiful word! The image one might conjure up in his or her mind is of something lavish.  After all, some of the synonyms associated with this word could be: abundant, arable, fruitful, lush, productive and rich.  All of which bring allurement to consciousness.  Close your eyes and try imagery with this word. Impossible to think of anything gloomy.  Now try this exercise in relation to humans and conception.  First thoughts may have been a beautiful, perfect, angelic baby or some of you may have given in to thoughts of the activities involved in producing this angel.  Both are pleasing symbolisms. It’s…
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One Baby, Please, Hold the Sugar: A Birth Story

All, Birth Stories, Breastfeeding, Health, Infants, Life, New Parenthood, Post Partum, Pregnancy, Relationships
One baby, please, hold the sugar is my daughter's birth story told from her perspective. These words are her own and don't necessarily express my personal views or opinions. I welcome all women to share their birth stories! Please contact me if you'd like to publish your birth story on The Incomplete Guide to Parenting. If you are interested in my doula or lactation services, please visit my website Disclaimer: No artificial sweeteners here I've gone back and forth about putting my story out into the world. I never wanted to scare anyone, and so when asked, I would come up with a glossed over, toned down version of my story, the "polite" version. But I recently read a birth story that was such a blatant bunch of sugar-coated bull****…
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Tips for Breastfeeding with Yeast

Breastfeeding, Health, Infants, Parenting
*If you click some of links I’ve added to this educational information, I may earn a few cents to help keep this operational. I’ve either used these products myself or trust the recommendations from the moms I serve and choose to pass on the great tips. Win-Win Tips for breastfeeding with yeast is not a replacement for medical advice. Determining the cause of candida albicans is most important when breastfeeding with yeast. Latch difficulties, tongue tie, nipple shields, breast pads, hormonal imbalance etc can cause sore nipples and may mimic yeast-like symptoms. Working with a professional to explore the potential problems before starting a plan, is the quickest way to relief. Diet: Lower your sugar, dairy, gluten, alcohol, high mold, artificial ingredients or anything you feel increases inflammation in your…
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Fascinating Facts About Your Placenta

Health, Pregnancy
These fascinating facts about your placenta will have you feeling fully informed about the world your fetus lives in. From the time you saw the pregnancy test appear positive, you’ve likely done a lot of reading about pregnancy, labor, birth and babies.  Maybe you’ve even watched a bunch of videos or taken a class to become more comfortable with the process of bringing a baby into the world or perhaps talked to a variety of seasoned moms.  Whatever route you are using to gain the most enlightenment into motherhood, it probably does not include enough information about the amazing environment your protégé is growing in. This is impart due to the parents focusing on HOW the baby will leave its warm cozy habitat and end up on your breast. After…
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